Monday, 28 April 2008

Let Go ...

"....That is why it is so important to let certain things go. To release them. To cut loose. People need to understand that no one is playing with marked cards; sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Don't expect to get anything back, don't expect recognition for your efforts, don't expect your genius to be discovered or your love to be understood. Complete the circle. Not out of pride, inability or arrogance, but simply because whatever it is no longer fits in your life. Close the door, change the record, clean the house, get rid of the dust. Stop being who you were and become who you are...."
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5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you, the words I needed but did not have.

20 April 2008 at 7:48 am
Anonymous said...

I've been following your blog since quite sometime but today i feel is the right time i pitch in with an advice...

Not all relationships are MEANT to last forever... many are just stepping stones on the river of life, there to get you to the other side where you will have become the person you were meant to be.

Certain attitudes will perpetuate painful feelings much longer than need be. Attitudes such as "I can't be happy without this person," or "After all I did, this is how s/he treats me!" or "I will never have another like him/her," won't get you anywhere. Thoughts and attitudes such as these prevent us from letting go, moving on and maturing mentally or emotionally.

Letting go hurts because not only do we let go of our partner, we must let go of all our dreams of a life with them. We let go of our present stage of life and our expectations of that life. We let go of many viewpoints. We let go of identifying ourselves as a part of this relationship, as half a couple with this individual. We must let go and move on from this time of our life, as it is finished and over.

Letting go is bound to cause a deep sense of loss. Loneliness, anger, grief, jealousy, fear of the future, panic, and in some cases, a deep and depressing sense of failure are just a few of the emotions waiting for us at the end of a relationship where we loved deeply.

It hurts, but the hurt is not endless!! Time is the ultimate healer. After a few weeks the sharp pains turn into a dull ache, and after a few months you will hopefully be able to take a step back and realistically assess benefits gained from the association.

You can use this time alone wisely for introspection and spiritual development; understand your role in the failure of the relationship and vow to do things differently next time. Make plans for your future, do things you enjoy, or become productive and take care of other matters that need your time and attention.

20 April 2008 at 2:14 pm
Manish said...

@Cindy

Thanx a lot for being supportive all the way ..i guess this is the first time i m acknowledging it..but trust me ..ur words have really given me a lot of much needed strength ...
Well ..u c ...i've finally come to accepting things(like i have a choice ..[:D]!!) ..nyways ..i guess i m still way too young to NOT make mistakes ...[:D]...lolz..

20 April 2008 at 2:24 pm
Manish said...

@anonymous ...
That really helped ...its already been 3 weeks ...and even i feel that i understand and appreciate everything better wid every passing day ...i jus wish ...i get over wid it ..as soon as possible ...wish me luck !...
btw ..i dont c a reason to post Anonymously on my blog !! [:O]

20 April 2008 at 2:30 pm
Lukkydivs said...

all i read was DONT EXPECT :O :O :O lolz no comments :P

22 April 2008 at 12:23 am

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